Randal R Cox

Life is short. Live well and laugh at yourself.

A Second Outing...

In some ways this is much harder than the first coming out - but in order to stay true to myself and live a transparent life - I need to.

Lately, I have realized just how important it is to be open about one's beliefs when they are not the (perceived) norm or publicly-held beliefs. Much like with the LGBTQ community, acceptance into society can only happen when those involved let it be known how many actually exist, and or believe a certain way.

So here goes…
I don't believe in a god or gods. I don't believe in an after-life. I don't believe in sin. I don't believe in a heaven or a hell. I don't believe in using fear as a motivator to do the right thing or as a way to coerce & control. I am a non-believer, a non-theist, if you will (as there are so many that are frightened of the "A" word). I have many, many reasons (a lifetime full) for this absence of belief, but those are for another post.

I do believe that doing the right thing is in itself, a moral choice, which is another reason I'm posting this.

I wasn't raised this way, quite the opposite. It took many years for me to unravel the doctrine that I was taught, and many more years to come to the conclusion that I no longer wish to hide my beliefs. Previously, when asked about my beliefs, I responded with "Thank you for your concern, but I prefer to keep my beliefs to myself". I have come to realize that in doing that, I was not being the person that I want to be and that, dear reader, is my choice. No-one else's. I'm certainly not going to force my beliefs on another, but if asked, I will no longer remain quiet. I will no longer stay silent out of fear of hurting someone's feelings. If you allow your feelings to get hurt, that is your choice, and I understand that now.

"Why are you putting this out on your blog?" you ask…. Well, it is my blog… I'm not forcing anyone to read it, but I am freely posting it on my site. Feel free to click away from here and ignore me, it won't hurt my feelings.

I'd like to write more about this as I now feel free to do so - a freedom I was keeping from myself.
I am also very open to the idea of honest, respectful conversation about it… as long as it stays honest & respectful.